Friday 13 January 2017

BODY SHAMING? SEXUAL HARASSMENT? STOP EET!!!!


I have never fought anyone in my life. I am too much of a pacifist. But today, I almost went out of character and because I haven't dissipated that angst, I am now restless.
I walked into the departure lounge of MM1 this morning to check in for my flight back to Enugu and I was accosted by the vilest of creatures.
"Abuja or Enugu, ma?", he said initially. He appeared reasonable but I had had my share of experience with airport touts so I gently declined his offer. However, what he said next, made my blood boil.
"Sister, this your 'shest'"... I walked past him and asked a fellow passenger on the queue if that was for Enugu passengers. Initially, the shock of the statement had me do a double take but I shook it off, pretended not to notice he said that or was it that I was in a hurry that i did not react. Whatever my silence at such an affront meant at that point, he felt emboldened because I noticed he kept following me around and passing uncomplimentary comments about that part of my anatomy while my patience at him waned.
I was on the final check in line when he couldn't seem to help himself any longer and then walked up to me and muttered yet again like a depraved animal he was,"Aunty, I mean it. This ya 'shest'..." This time, I didn't let him finish. My right hand developed a mind of its own and lashed in his direction for a thundering slap. "I will slap the demons from your mouth if you come close to me again!!", I spat angrily,"What sort of animal are you?!" He ducked away from my aim so the slap didn't land on target and he slunk away, drawing stares from other people after him.
No one reacted but I noticed something different about my reaction to him. In the past, I would be the one slinking away in shame and mortification because I have faced all sorts of unsavoury comments from total strangers about my body but today, I was filled with rage. Murderous rage. I would have behaved out of character and slapped that idiot within an inch of his life.
I don't know what this post is setting out to achieve for you reading it but it is cathartic for me. My rage is spent.
It is bad to say stupid things to people on account of some physical flaw or otherwise they may have. No one has the right to make someone else feel what I have felt today and almost everyday of my teen and adult years. Sexual harassment and body shaming is wrong. Totally wrong. Trust me, you can get killed for it.
This nonsense needs to stop. We all need to be better people!!!

We have no idea what these things we say do to people's mind; their psyche. It messes them up. Some even need therapy to get over it long term. Just. Stop. It

Who even dictates what normal body forms are? We shame people for their bodies, their financial status, their educational prowess or lack of it, their faith, their convictions, their way of life, their choice of whom to love. marital status, even mode of child delivery!!!!

When do we stop?

I have chosen to stop hiding in cowardly fashion. I will start giving as good as I get.

That man should be lucky. He did dodge a grenade this morning.

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